Expectation...

Expectation is a powerful attractive force. Expect the things you want and don’t expect the things you don’t want.

- The Secret

Intentions and expectations are both supposed to be miracle workers, if we can stop our minds from worrying about the how. They say just put it out “there” and miraculous things will happen. I’ve pulled this off many times. I have to keep reminding myself though. I catch the fearful thoughts, based on what’s happened in the past or because I can’t see how what I want can possibly happen. I typically don’t have all the information and/or I don’t see the possibilities, yet. Staying open and quieting the mind seem to really help. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Strength in forgiveness...

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.

- Ghandi

Forgiveness seems to be a work in progress for me. I think I understand the concept. If we can understand and accept that we each have our limitations and weaknesses, then we can take things less personally and free ourselves from resentment, anger, negativity. I know I’ve accomplished this in some cases because I no longer feel “triggered.” There’s an un-hooking from the emotional turmoil, which is great actually. There are some people/circumstances that seem harder to shake. Still working on it. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Stroke of luck...

Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.

- Dalai Lama

It feels counter-intuitive at times, but I’ve had such an experience. I was passed over for a couple of jobs (when I really needed the work) only to land the role of my dreams. The position is truly a perfect fit for me. Fewf. I managed this in my love life too. Bliss is possible. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Paradise...

Paradise isn’t a place. It’s a feeling.

- L. Boyer

It took me a long time to figure this one out ;) My younger self thought the right partner would be home. Turns out, there’s some truth to that. What I didn’t know, however, was that to get to the perfect mate, I had to be at home with myself. This was not a quick or easy journey and I don’t know that I could articulate the steps. There was a lot of “inner” work, with the help of professionals from various walks of life and much time and money spent. Perhaps I could sum up best with one message... I came to the most honest place I could. Who I am, how do I want to live, what do I enjoy doing or not? I decided that would have to be ok and that would have to be enough. Game changer. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Forgive yourself...

Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you learned it.

- Unknown

I’m still working on this one. It’s hard not to look back and shake your head. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Ability to chill ;) ...

You have to fight through some bad days to earn the best days of your life.

- Unknown

Looking back, the challenging experiences make for some funny stories and learnings. In the moment, however, not so funny. I continue to be surprised at my lack of ability to be chill in such moments. I can honestly say that those tough moments led to today’s bliss. Just sayin’ :) Hugs.

Blessings,

Chatgirl

Don’t have to pretend...

Sometimes you meet a person and you just click - you’re comfortable with them, like you’ve known them your whole life, and you don’t have to pretend to be anyone or anything.

- Unknown

This is a very freeing and fulfilling experience. I wish I could go back in time and tell my young self to wait for it. My earlier relationships were very much like fitting the square peg into the round hole. I believed the sayings I heard; relationships take work, you have to compromise, no one’s perfect, there’s no such thing as a perfect relationship and so many more. In my experience, there are easier relationships and there are brutally tough ones. Maybe we need some of these challenging experiences to grow and evolve. I don’t know. What I know now is, I would never go back to one of those draining experiences. Love can be blissful. Just sayin’ :) Hugs. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl