Anger is a way to protest…

• A response to disempowerment
• A sign our boundaries are being ignored or violated
• A response to invalidation or unfair treatment
• A response to disrespect
• A part of the grief process
• A sign of built-up resentment or unresolved emotions
• A symptom of hyper vigilance and trauma
• A sign that you may feel attacked, threatened, or deceived
• A way to protest that we cannot control the reality around us

— @the.love.therapist

My favourite therapist taught me about the layers of emotion, and that beneath anger is often hurt. And that childhood trauma tends to be the root cause of our biggest issues. I also learned that it’s pretty tough to tackle deep baggage without professional help. Therapy is, at least for me, very safe, comforting, and anxiety reducing. It can really take the monkey off your back. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl 

It’s okay…

It’s okay

To make mistakes

To have bad days

To be less than perfect

To do what’s best for you

To be yourself

— Unknown 

Three of these stand out for me; the trap of perfectionism, prioritizing self-care, and accepting oneself, flaws and all. Embracing myself fully, regardless of any perceived limitations (impatient, neat freak bordering on OCD at times, not out-doores’y and perhaps not cultured enough), was a huge turning point in my life. And really it was all thanks to a painful and humiliating break up. I vowed to never go through another break up, and in order to do that, I realized I had to be completely honest about who I am, how I want to live my life, and what sort of person would match up well with that. I met the love of my life within a year, and interestingly enough he had come to the same conclusion. Just sayin’ :) Hugs and good luck. XO

Blessings,

Chatgirl