Remember, when you forgive, you heal. And when you let go, you grow.
— Unknown
My understanding is that when we forgive, we release ourselves from the potentially toxic anger we are harbouring. In other words, the anger hurts us, while it does not have an impact on the perpetrator anyway. Makes sense to try find a way to resolve those negative feelings. Just sayin’ :) Hugs. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know until you lived through it. Honor your path. Trust your journey. Learn, grow, evolve, become.
— Creig Crippen
I’ve observed forgiving and then needing to forgive again. The whole thing has been a bit of a process, as the surrounding emotions need addressing. I’ve had to rely on healthy, professional and unbiased coaching here an there. Just sayin’ :) Hugs. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Become more aware of what’s really worth your energy.
— Unknown
My favourite therapist gives similar advice. He says we should carefully consider what we’re doing and why. If we realize we’re offering too much of our time and energy out of duty and obligation, we may want to re-prioritize. He says if we feel we have the time and energy, and we choose to give selflessly to particular people/causes, good enough. But we should set time aside for our own mental health and well being. Just sayin’ :) Hugs. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Alone time is when I distance myself from the voices of the world so I can hear my own.
— Oprah
When I was younger, I heard people talk about “going inward” and I had no idea what that meant. The more I read up on self-help, spirituality, the 50 top Fortune 500 leaders and successful entrepreneurs/leaders I realize there’s really something to gut instinct and “listening” for intuitive/higher self/spiritual guidance, beyond the facts, figures and straight up IQ. Just sayin’ :) Hugs. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
Phil Jackson, the legendary coach of the Los Angeles lakers and someone I consider a Zen master, made medication and mindfulness a regular part of team practices. We were all bonded through spirituality and silence and it would bring with it a sense of interconnectedness that I hadn’t felt before. Practicing mindfulness helped me get comfortable with uncertainty and keep my head in the game. I’ve learned how to let go of things that are outside of my control and focus on staying in flow.
— Pau Gasol (Spanish professional basketball player. He is a six-time NBA All Star, winner of two NBA championships and the first non-American player to have won NBA Rookie of the Year in 2002).
My favourite therapist is convinced that we need the support of something “bigger” than ourselves to face and manage our deepest issues/traumas/stressors. Just sayin’ :) Hugs. XO
Blessings,
Herman Hesse’s novel Siddartha is a story about a spiritual seeker who goes in search of illumination. Near the end of the quest, when Siddartha is purified and enlightened, he tells his friend, ‘I greatly needed sin, lust, vanity, the striving for goods, and the most shameful despair, to learn how to love the world, to stop comparing the world with any world that I wish for, with any perfection that I think up; I learned to let the world be as it is, and to love it and to belong to it gladly.’
— Rob Brezny, freewillastrology
I hear the message. Learn to love life and the world just as they are. Just sayin’ :) Hugs. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
You’ve survived 100% of your worst days so far.
Keep going.
— @motivating.force
I survived a particularly terrifying time of my life. Post 2008 financial crisis, I lost my fancy new job and spent three years trying to get back to a customary position/salary level. I had sleepless nights and a truck load of fear to manage, but I did survive. An old manager of mine called one day and rescued me big time. He offered me a senior position with fantastic salary and benefits. Fewf. What I realize looking back is that I didn’t just survive. I spent 3 years learning about constructive and healthy money management. I also ascended to a new level of sanity saving life skills; resiliency, perseverance, patience, belief in self, emotion management. Once in the new career/finance saving position (thanks forever to my former manager/friend), I had one goal and that was to be indispensable. I’ve never looked back, I’ve never achieved more and I’ve never accomplished more financial freedom in my life. I’m pretty sure I took my career for granted back when because there were always loads of jobs around. I now know that I have to prepare for the unpredictable because if Covid has taught us anything, we surely know we need to be prepared for whatever may come. Just sayin’ :) Hugs. XO
Blessings,
Chatgirl
